Yesterday I attended an interesting workshop on Emotional Intelligence which was organized by the managing body of our school. This was the third session in the row after having attended the previous intellectual sessions by Dr. Anand Nadkarni and Dr. Rupesh Patkar. It was really a boost and an enriching experience to start the remaining term of this academic year.
Up to now it was only academic intelligence which gained the utmost consideration. As the time progressed and various researches took place, the very concept of intelligence broadened and the hidden aspect of emotional intelligence sought the attention of educators throughout the globe. A glimpse at the world, will tell us why it is so important. While Academic Intelligence provides better career opportunities, Emotional Intelligence helps in leading a successful life.
This interactive workshop led by Ms. Mithila Dalvi (Sex Educator and Councellor) and Mr. Milind Palsule (Corporate Trainer) who run Samvaad – a dialogue threw light on Emotional Intelligence and Empathy and ways to deal with them. Also it highlighted the appropriacy of the dialogue when it comes to deal with kids. Throughout the day, we learnt the proper ways of using words and their effects on the kids, saw and participated in some role plays, heard the examples and stories of people who are focussing on EI (Emotional Intelligence) and participated in some brainstorming discussions.
In a world where mental health is put at stake for fleeting temptations, the role of appropriate and effective dialogue stands vital. It needs to be true and emotions should be conveyed in an effective way. Emotional Intelligence includes not only identifying own as well as others’ emotions, but also expressing them and responding to others’ emotions. This ultimately results and scaffolds the management of emotions, which is the dire need of this stressed world.
Many a times we don’t consider our kids and students as capable of understanding and handling any situation. We underestimate their ability to listen and understand the overflow of emotions, due to too much care and over protectiveness. In stead of presenting the reality in a convincing manner, we often hide the facts. Here starts the confusion where our kids face the dilemma of when and why to trust their parents and share anything with them. If used with right kind of language, these instances can serve useful in making the kids responsible and able to handle the emotions in a proper way. It’s fundamental to identify the emotions and later control them (which is addressed as ‘Name it & tame it’ strategy) to lead a healthy and peaceful life. The duo not only presented these thoughts through suitable examples but also made us put them into practice. The sessions were informative and thought provoking, presented in a witty manner with the touch of timely humour. We were amazed by an interesting statement about learning type that girls seem to learn mostly by hearing and boys prefer seeing. Maybe that’s why women are found more talkative than men. This too was stated by Milind sir in his witty style.
Another great concept for which I’ll always owe to Mithila ma’am and Milind sir is ‘I’ message which is the most powerful technique. Parents and teachers often complain over the misbehaviour and several addictions of kids like mobile phones, televisions etc. Attempts to tackle these end up in arguments and clashes due to lack of proper words and build a bridge between these two generations. I message is related to the way of our communication. It reduces the part of obligation on the part of kids and puts the parents in the zone of responsibility. The simple shift in language and it’s tone can convey the message more powerfully and effectively. For establishing healthy interactions, the I message isn’t only useful for parents and kids but it aids in other spheres too. Imagine a world where people take the responsibility of their own emotions in stead of burdening others with their own expectations which leads to positive communication. If you want your ward to stop doing something, don’t tell him/her to do or don’t do it. Simply tell him/her what/do you feel or want. This works while praising them as well. Too much praise can often prove harmful in the growth of kids. Using right words through I message praises the kids in moderation without spoiling them and diminishes the burden of ambitions.
The intriguing stories of teachers bringing in positive change in learners in adverse conditions enabled us to believe in the power of words. By using the innate qualities of learners like physical strength and emphasising on their actual needs for survival, these teachers transformed their lives. These learners who otherwise with the traditional academic outlook could have remained deprived of their dreams, showed a remarkable progress in learning because they were made to feel good about themselves which triggered them for the ultimate change. As these stories belong to low resource schools where learners come from underprivileged families, there is definitely a silver lining for other schools too.
Empathy is yet another aspect worth focussing. While the I message puts one’s own self into action, empathy demands understanding and responding to others’ emotions. For the kids growing an in world of intense competitions and unpredictable complexities, it is much needed to be empathetic with them, to make them relaxed and feel loved and cared.
Being teachers and parents, we are often used to give advice rather than listening. Well suggestions or counsel don’t always work as remedy but a patient, listening ear does. Our kids actually need this as they experience the turbulent emotions but don’t know how to cope up with them. Empathy doesn’t always need words but a kind touch, a loving tap can also make someone feel warm and comfortable.
Malvan Education Society has always strived to give us better opportunities for our development. This workshop which got a successful response of teachers and parents is going to be a stepping stone in understanding our kids and learners and establishing positive relations with them. Hoping for such lovely interactions with my learners!!😊😊