Emotional Intelligence : why we need it and how we inculcate it

Yesterday I attended an interesting workshop on Emotional Intelligence which was organized by the managing body of our school. This was the third session in the row after having attended the previous intellectual sessions by Dr. Anand Nadkarni and Dr. Rupesh Patkar. It was really a boost and an enriching experience to start the remaining term of this academic year.

Up to now it was only academic intelligence which gained the utmost consideration. As the time progressed and various researches took place, the very concept of intelligence broadened and the hidden aspect of emotional intelligence sought the attention of educators throughout the globe. A glimpse at the world, will tell us why it is so important. While Academic Intelligence provides better career opportunities, Emotional Intelligence helps in leading a successful life.

This interactive workshop led by Ms. Mithila Dalvi (Sex Educator and Councellor) and Mr. Milind Palsule (Corporate Trainer) who run Samvaad – a dialogue threw light on Emotional Intelligence and Empathy and ways to deal with them. Also it highlighted the appropriacy of the dialogue when it comes to deal with kids. Throughout the day, we learnt the proper ways of using words and their effects on the kids, saw and participated in some role plays, heard the examples and stories of people who are focussing on EI (Emotional Intelligence) and participated in some brainstorming discussions.

In a world where mental health is put at stake for fleeting temptations, the role of appropriate and effective dialogue stands vital. It needs to be true and emotions should be conveyed in an effective way. Emotional Intelligence includes not only identifying own as well as others’ emotions, but also expressing them and responding to others’ emotions. This ultimately results and scaffolds the management of emotions, which is the dire need of this stressed world.

Many a times we don’t consider our kids and students as capable of understanding and handling any situation. We underestimate their ability to listen and understand the overflow of emotions, due to too much care and over protectiveness. In stead of presenting the reality in a convincing manner, we often hide the facts. Here starts the confusion where our kids face the dilemma of when and why to trust their parents and share anything with them. If used with right kind of language, these instances can serve useful in making the kids responsible and able to handle the emotions in a proper way. It’s fundamental to identify the emotions and later control them (which is addressed as ‘Name it & tame it’ strategy) to lead a healthy and peaceful life. The duo not only presented these thoughts through suitable examples but also made us put them into practice. The sessions were informative and thought provoking, presented in a witty manner with the touch of timely humour. We were amazed by an interesting statement about learning type that girls seem to learn mostly by hearing and boys prefer seeing. Maybe that’s why women are found more talkative than men. This too was stated by Milind sir in his witty style.

Another great concept for which I’ll always owe to Mithila ma’am and Milind sir is ‘I’ message which is the most powerful technique. Parents and teachers often complain over the misbehaviour and several addictions of kids like mobile phones, televisions etc. Attempts to tackle these end up in arguments and clashes due to lack of proper words and build a bridge between these two generations. I message is related to the way of our communication. It reduces the part of obligation on the part of kids and puts the parents in the zone of responsibility. The simple shift in language and it’s tone can convey the message more powerfully and effectively. For establishing healthy interactions, the I message isn’t only useful for parents and kids but it aids in other spheres too. Imagine a world where people take the responsibility of their own emotions in stead of burdening others with their own expectations which leads to positive communication. If you want your ward to stop doing something, don’t tell him/her to do or don’t do it. Simply tell him/her what/do you feel or want. This works while praising them as well. Too much praise can often prove harmful in the growth of kids. Using right words through I message praises the kids in moderation without spoiling them and diminishes the burden of ambitions.

The intriguing stories of teachers bringing in positive change in learners in adverse conditions enabled us to believe in the power of words. By using the innate qualities of learners like physical strength and emphasising on their actual needs for survival, these teachers transformed their lives. These learners who otherwise with the traditional academic outlook could have remained deprived of their dreams, showed a remarkable progress in learning because they were made to feel good about themselves which triggered them for the ultimate change. As these stories belong to low resource schools where learners come from underprivileged families, there is definitely a silver lining for other schools too.

Empathy is yet another aspect worth focussing. While the I message puts one’s own self into action, empathy demands understanding and responding to others’ emotions. For the kids growing an in world of intense competitions and unpredictable complexities, it is much needed to be empathetic with them, to make them relaxed and feel loved and cared.

Being teachers and parents, we are often used to give advice rather than listening. Well suggestions or counsel don’t always work as remedy but a patient, listening ear does. Our kids actually need this as they experience the turbulent emotions but don’t know how to cope up with them. Empathy doesn’t always need words but a kind touch, a loving tap can also make someone feel warm and comfortable.

Malvan Education Society has always strived to give us better opportunities for our development. This workshop which got a successful response of teachers and parents is going to be a stepping stone in understanding our kids and learners and establishing positive relations with them. Hoping for such lovely interactions with my learners!!😊😊

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To sir with love…..

Recently, I read To Sir With Love by E. R. Braithwaite. Published in 1959, it is based on true events in the life of Mr. Braithwaite who takes up the job as a teacher in the East End of London and how he deals with a challenging class. The book also touches the burning issue of that time – the discrimination based on colour. But with every page, it highlights the fundamental aspects of human life, love and respect and how can they work wonders even for a class of disrespectful, undereducated teenagers.

I enjoyed every bit of this book because I could relate this class with my own class to some extent. Though the days have passed, we can still find such lot of learners around us, who we encounter with in this book.

We have witnessed many major shifts in Education concerning with methodology, content and objectives. From the teacher-led classrooms demanding discipline and a strict code of conduct, the focus has been on learner centred classrooms where the shackles of discipline are minimised in the name of positive learning atmosphere. Many theories, researches have emphasised the need of putting learners at the core of the teaching-learning process. And the provision of legal protection to learners from any kind of physical punishment also reinforces this. But the other side of this coin reveals the harshness of behavioral problems of our learners which are certainly not negligible.

But is punishment the only way to tackle this problem? With my little experience, I strongly deny the option of punishment as a solution to such problems. In fact, the kind of atmosphere cultivated in the school in To Sir With Love is quite praiseworthy. In stead of focusing on mugging up texts and passing the exams, this school believes in nurturing human beings to be able to survive in the outside world that too in a far early period. For this, the learners are not only allowed to act as they please but also they are barred from any kind of punishment.

In our present context, we too find such problems getting worse day by day. The reasons are known by all like ‘the all time protective shield of parent’s love’ and ‘easily quenched desires’. Today we deal with a generation of super smart kids and teens but lacking basic morals and manners and with a little care for others. Many will agree that it’s definitely not an easy task handling such classes. Especially, when the world around us is loosing these values and morals, how can we shape and nurture our learners who are going to be a part of this self centered and carefree world of tomorrow?

Previously, schools were the centres implementing strict discipline and punishment was the inseparable part of it. But the learner psychology discarded this concept of punishment layered under discipline. For some, this reform has allowed the learners to act care free. But little do they realise the power and place of love and trust in shaping and nurturing our learners.

If we analyse the scenario,we will find the learners obsessed with the need of proving self identity, eager to voicing out the inner thoughts, loaded with frustration coming out of the cutthroat competition and drifting in the ocean of high level expectations endlessly. They need a listening ear ready to hear them and a comforting shoulder to support them and more than anything else a heart full of love. They too have feelings and self respect. The act of punishments might satisfy our purpose of discipline, but that shatters their delicate minds and affects their confidence. Instead open discussions with them help them realise their errors and thus affecting their future course of actions. There is a hidden cause behind every action of theirs and we have to know it before taking any action. They too long for attention and they all have a story. Maybe we can play a small but significant role in it and make them feel special. Respecting their views, makes them more responsible and gives them the sense that they (learners) too matter. So being in their shoes and viewing the world through their eyes is the need of the hour and a way to connect with them.

Like Mr. Braithwaite, who succeeded in transforming his class from a group of misbehaving brats to thoughtful and aspiring individuals, I hope every teacher finds his/her way to nourish his/her learners with love!!!!

Exhaustion….the other part of the story

With the end of an academic year, comes the relaxation of having done with the piles of paper and assessment. For me, it’s like getting rid of a burden which is nearly killing my passion to teach. The following month-long vacation is indeed needed to get myself refreshed to shoulder the upcoming responsibilities. Luckily, I happened to read an interesting article on Reflection by Rachelle Dene Poth on exhausted teachers on reflection and it made me reflect on my teaching practice but to think about my learners too. But there is another side of the coin too.

Learners and Exhaustion

As this article suggests, exhaustion is likely to happen in any profession and it’s quite natural to feel tired but gearing up as well. For teachers, it’s very common to go through this phase as we deal with the diverse attitudes and behaviors of our learners with such an ever challenging task of teaching them. Our learners who too are attacked by a large mass of information and associated tasks are the victims of this exhaustion on another end.

What causes this exhaustion?

We are teaching a generation who is smart and advanced in many ways. They are exposed to many things at a time and are able to perform many of the tasks well. But what we sometimes forget is they too have a life, interests and hobbies which are often neglected for the sake of learning. The schedule of a normal child today, is utterly busy. In order to make them multi talented superkids, we are forcing them to sacrifice their childhood. We are burdening their shoulders with our dreams which are occupying their own aspirations. The result is as we all know, a generation without emotions.

When I look back and peep into my classes, I do remember the eager faces of my learners laden with all the excitement and hopes to learn something new. But then, on some days, there is boredom too sending all my efforts in vain.

I remember a day when my learners totally refused to learn (obviously through their facial expressions and gestures) and thus I ended up in frustration. I felt terrible at this and wanted to shout at them but didn’t do anything of that sort and left the class quietly. When I introspected on this, I thought of my pupils’ needs and realized as for how much less scope is given to their expression and freedom. For the sake of the syllabus and academics, we keep spurring them with a hord of activities and assignments without realizing their limits. I remember my learners demanding extra game time as they cannot go on with the regular classes. I really feel bad for them as they go through a regular spinning wheel which we very lovingly call as Modern Education, hardly noticing their emotions and aspirations. We are however forgetting the very nature of Education and mostly defining it in uncertain terms, ignoring the basic purpose and principle of it. A full tight schedule of curricular activities prepared by teachers, parents and coaching classes is not the way things should really go.

I can’t change this scenario to a large extent but since that particular class, I do think about the learners and make sure not to overload them with a heap of tasks for the sake of learning. There are games, warmers to add interest to the classes, bringing in some moments of joy and comfort. I do hope, despite the cut-throat competition and the overpowering stress of the modern world, there are moments of laughter and fun to make the childhood of my learners, a mesmerizing memory, by putting away the exhaustion and creating an ambience of comfort and relaxation.

Women’s Day… adding life to the day

Since morning my phone has been continuously pinging with loads of messages. And as it’s now common to celebrate any occasion virtually, how can Women’s Day be an exception to this?

Right from the society to the media every one is trying to prove how special is this day and making women feel more dignified. Surely we are worth it. But again this question keeps pondering in my mind. “Are we worth of all this praise and honour only for this single day?”

I believe if we keep aside this gender based bifurcation and look at ourselves as a HUMAN first, then every day will be worth celebrating.

We are living in an era where everything seems to be updated, modernised and so do our lifestyles. Over the years women have raised the bar and are shining brightly on the horizon. But when it comes to success, how do we define it or what parameters are used to measure it? Refined social status, dignified jobs, laurels and qualifications, stardom…. Yes today’s woman has definitely achieved all thi and is soaring high in the sky. But a large section of the marginalised society needs to be addressed as well. Those who are underprivileged, less educated, lacking highly paid jobs are still doing their bit. In fact, our society is the perfect blend of these diverse categories who are moving ahead no matter what comes their way.

While a multitasking, laden with highly acclaimed degrees, 21st century lady is crossing all the milestones and adding all the features to her crown, we have the striving lady too somewhere hid under the innumerable responsibilities and away from the so called development of the modern age, but still doing her bit to make all the difference in the lives of their loved ones. So every woman is Special in her own way.

Woman is not an object to be used but an individual soul who also have equal freedom and respect. Unfortunately this fact has been overlooked imposing burdens and harassment on women. But it’s not in any way an obstacle that has refrained the brave ladies to limit themselves. They have overcome all the hurdles and triumphantly marching ahead.

There is hardly any sphere left untouched by women. Right from the kitchen to the space, from the life making schools to theatre, from the offices upto the administration, women are proudly spreading their wings everywhere. There are the fighters like Sindhutai Sapkal who whole-heartedly devoted her life for uplifting the orphans despite being less educated and poverty ridden. There are many coming ahead and bringing in the change but those too who need a little help to prove themselves.

So all this success, progress just because we are Women or a living being made of flesh and blood and controlled by our brains, labelled as Humans. Our society doesn’t need only one type out of this man and woman thing. It’s made of both. And to sustain life, we need a society free of gender bias. It’s good to celebrate our womanhood but with humanity at it’s base.

So let’s celebrate this Women’s Day with a deeper and widened perspective of being an intellectual living being and continue to do so to rejoice every day as Women’s day.

Wishing all the dignified women irrespective of their education and social status but still trying to add meaning to life with whatever we do, A Happy Women’s day today and everyday. Cheers to life..Cheers to womanhood!!!

CHESS Symposium

February is supposed to be a busy month for teachers…all the hustle and bustle of exams, oral tests, evaluation, farewell ceremonies of students. But this year one more event was added to this list. The district Symposium of CHESS, celebrating the successful completion of Year 1 of ETFs ( English Teacher’s Forum ).

It was a bit challenging to organize it and seek participation from teachers at this period of year. But it’s rightly said, “If there is a will, there’s a way.” It not only gained spontaneous response from the teachers but the presentations also reached a step ahead compared to the last year.

Preparations

It took every bit of time to prepare for this grand event in such a short period. There were times, when it was difficult for us to come face to face and chalk out the plan. But thanks to the modern technology which enabled us to connect with each other and plan ahead. Encouraging teachers for maximum participation, invitations, guidance and discussion on the presentations too was done through the same channel. ETF meetings helped to convey our message more effectively. And the culmination of this was clearly seen in our Symposium, which witnessed the enthusiasm and positive energy of teachers who left no stone unturned to add to this event.. Our teachers too offered us a helping hand by assisting in various jobs.

Moderators taking the charge of action

The Symposium started by lighting the lamp by the dignitaries and their guidance. It was really kind of Ms. Sushma Konduskar ma’am from DIECPD to share her thoughts and maintain the air of learning and sharing through her speech. Her assurance of helping in the CPD, relaxed all the teachers. Mr. Arun Patil, senior lecturer, DIECPD also guided the teachers.

Mr. Eknath Kambale, moderator, threw light on the CHESS project in his introductory speech, while moderators Mr. Mahesh Pednekar and Mr. Digambar Sarang anchored this ship of the Symposium. Moderator, Miss Nurjahan Naik presented her project on developing basic language skills of learners through a presentation. The vote of thanks was proposed by moderator Mr. Nandkumar Naik.

PPT presentations

From Live English to dramatization, framing questions for communication to word games, error correction to listening skill, teachers put in their best to showcase their best practices. Total 10 presentations and every presentation displaying the classroom innovations proved that teachers can manage their time well however busy and overloaded they are. The videos containing students communicating also scaffolded the presentations. Every presentation was a proof of the hard work of the teachers and contained a learning point for the audience.

Poster presentations

While the presentations compelled the teachers to stick to the chairs, the posters made the walls lively. The auditorium soon transformed into an art hall where the creativity was blooming throughout the day.

This year not only teachers presented their talents, but the real beneficiaries of this project, our learners also entered the hall with their beautiful posters. The teaching aids also assisted in elaborating the posters.

Plenary

The key note speaker for this l event was Prin. Dr. Shrikant Sawant, an eminent lecturer who shed light on the real scenario of English in India. He started with a witty but realistic example of teacher and learner’s relation by connecting it with doctor and patient’s relation. He advocated the need of teachers devising their own methods and approaches for language teaching. His point of accepting learners as role models in the class is worth implementing. He further emphasised the need of social media in learning and improving language skills.

And the award goes to….

For selecting the winners, we followed the Democratic way. The teachers voted for their favourite poster and ppt presentation. Every teacher was given the right of one vote for each category. And the teachers too lived up to our trust and chose the real talents. Mr. Anil Holkar undoubtedly made it to winning the best presenters award with his comprehensive presentation on framing and asking questions. Mr. Mukesh Pawar bagged the second prize by presenting on dramatization techniques while Mrs. Ashwini Acharekar was placed on third rank for her tourist leaflet

Ms. Prajakta Gawde, Mr. Rathod and Ms. Neha Rane made a way into the hearts of the teachers by securing the prizes for posters.

Overall it was heartening to see our efforts producing fruits of success. It is a day going deep down into our memory lanes spreading essence of happiness forever. As usual RMSA and RAA have blessed us to take up this responsibility and adding another feather into our hat of CPD.

Poster Exhibition

It is said that the sooner the better. But I would say the later the better. Todays poster exhibition made me say so. Since last two months I along with my students was trying to arrange the poster exhibition. But maybe everything happens for a good cause. Maybe our year end had to be so special so our project got delayed everytime. And when finally it was organized, it was etched on our minds as a beautiful memory.

The idea of this exhibition :

While dealing with a textbook activity, I was wondering as how could I make it more lively and enable my students to learn through it. Luckily my idea was accepted by the students and further discussions gave it a concrete form. For a smooth going I then put them into groups. All the 55 students were divided into 11 groups having 5 students in each group. Students brainstormed into their groups and decided their topic for posters.
Then started the actual preparations. Collecting the data and displaying it through the posters was the big thing. My students did not left any stone unturned to collect the data. They browsed through various sites, read many refernce books, sought guidance from other teachers and discussed with each other too. I guided as and when required. Their creativity made them think something new and go beyond the boundaries of regular course books.

Range of subjects :

The range of subjects was very wide and geared their brains. From science to history, from saints to scientists there was almost everything. The famous tourist places of the world,the cleaning machine,varieties of shells, origin of dinosaurs, recyling, the scientists and their inventions, road safety standards,the lady saints of Maharashtra,the nobel winner scientists,the floating bridge revealed their creativity and enthusiastic presentations captured the minds of audience. The best part was that when learners put into action their own ideas. The cleaning machine was the perfect example of this. The varieties of shells took them to beaches and rivers to discover their hidden features. Road safety and floating bridge indicated their awareness about accidents and human safety.

Execution by students :

Overall it was a treat to the eyes and ears to see their work and hear them using English confidentally. For the better execution, I divided them into three committees. All the members of the management committee, the invitation committee and the decoration committee did their jobs well. Right from arranging the class to anchoring, everything was well performed.

Advantages of this activity :

1 Students gained the knowledge of many things in an informal way. Without telling or dictating, they grasped it in a natural way.
2 The whole process was based on the principle of co-operation so students learnt to adjust with each other.
3 They not only shared their learning with others but also learnt something from others and learnt to appreciate others.
4 For collecting the data, they set foot in the real world, challenged their brains.
5 Due to the mixed groups, the issue of gender crisis resulted into respecting each other and helping each other.

I have asked my learners to reflect upon this activity to find out their learnings through it. I hope to get some nice answers in the new year to make a new start.